Did you know you are always part of a team?
We are part of a team in our family, in our homes (whoever we live with), in our workplaces and in fact on a much broader scale as well.
We tend to think of ourselves as only responsible for what is right in front of our face without paying much attention to the bigger picture and the fact that what we do does not just affect ourselves.
The thing is, the way we live, affects all those around us. If we live in a mess (in any aspect of life), then we bring disorder and disregard to life, and this is felt by others. Similarly, if we leave things unfinished or constantly procrastinate over what needs to be done (delay), then this is what we are offering to others (whether that be the family members who have to walk in our wake, or the work team members who have to wait to do their task, because we haven’t done the preceding task that was allocated to us, thereby putting them under pressure). Sound familiar?
The fact is, this has a great effect on us. We may cruise along thinking it doesn’t really matter, but when we want to call upon something more – e.g. we have to ‘perform’ or show we are on top of our game, we just don’t have the resources (lived foundation) from which to go forward. The way it works is that, it is very hard for us to be clear, concise and switched on, when we are coming from a lived base that is erratic, messy, inconsistent, or in delay.
The same principle applies in our home, in our workplace and in every situation we find ourselves in, in life. We either bring a pretty shaky foundation that doesn’t really offer anything solid, because that is how we are living, or we bring something more.
As much as we may pretend otherwise, we cannot just manufacture solidness on the spot, when we want to come across as reputable, strong, genuine or having something valuable to contribute. We can certainly learn how to polish our act so that the words we say sound super convincing, but to anyone who cares to discern (and everyone is equally as capable of this) words can be empty and very easily recognised to be so, when the quality of those words is not what is actually being lived. In other words, we can tell stories about what we represent, but if we are not living what we say, then it is just words.
What matters is what is lived.
What we choose in this regard has a direct impact on us, and also on those around us – an effect which we explore in Part 2 of this series.
This article was first published in Evolve College’s Studymassage News.