Your body – Part 2

In Part 1 of this series, we looked at how we tend to push our bodies through, in order to get what we want. We started to see that this has ramifications – which when we are ready we realise are not actually worth it.

As a great example that we all can relate to, if the body is tired, then is it really worth pushing it? We come to the point when we realise very clearly that it is not. This means that we may want the entertainment or the stimulation of food, an exciting experience or whatever may be on offer, but we may decide, in the end, that if we are tired, then it is actually more important to us to honour the fact that we need to rest.

If we push it, we will end up feeling more exhausted – like a rat caught on a spinning wheel that it forever runs around and around and around.

In contrast – if we rest, will we not wake up feeling refreshed and ready for whatever happens the next day?

This is a foreign concept to us all, to start with, as we are so used to overriding what the body tells us. In fact, we treat the body as a very low-class citizen within the world we like to think we rule. We push the body, we ignore its signals, and we use it to gain what we want. But in the end, the body will bring us to a halt, and it does this because it is an object of truth. Continue reading “Your body – Part 2”

Your body – Part 1

What does your body mean to you? A thing you cart around and that enables you to feel satisfied – through the food you put in, the entertainment you drink in through the body’s senses, or the other desires you satiate through what the body is able to do? Or is it more than that?

The fact is, our body is our connection to everything. The quality we allow within our body, becomes the quality of our relationships, the quality of the work we are able to produce, and in fact the quality of everything we do.

So where does that start? Continue reading “Your body – Part 1”


As the weather starts to get cooler in the Southern Hemisphere, it is a good time to look at the part that warmth plays in our life.

We sometimes call a person cold when they are distant, not wanting to connect with us, and keeping themselves removed. We can even call a person ‘icy cold’ when they are really shutting us out and saying a vehement “No” to any form of connection. We would all have to agree that interacting with a cold person is not fun at all.

But are we truly warm in the way we interact with others?

So what is warmth? Continue reading “Warmth”

The Quality of what you do

We’ve looked in recent articles at quality in life.

The fact is, if you are feeling absolutely gorgeous inside, then isn’t everything you do going to be wonderful?

People often comment that they can feel whether there is care, or a lack of care, in cooking for instance – food can feel a bit ‘dead’ if it is just slapped together, and even worse if it is cooked by someone who is angry, resentful or the like. OR, food can feel so welcoming and nourishing if it has been cooked in true care. In fact, food can be absolutely amazing if cooked by someone who is vital, alive, sparkling and who lovingly puts the meal together knowing they are nurturing all who eat it.

Similarly, if we produce work not just to tick a box and move onto the next task, but to bring all we are to that task, then the quality we work in makes the work we do amazing. We can all feel it when something has been produced with great care – and all bosses would be sure to say they definitely value quality very highly in terms of what matters to them at work.

If we put the quality we feel within our body ahead of all else, then the quality of everything we do goes up by magnitudes. Whatever line of work we are in, our clients or customers then can receive something very special indeed. Isn’t that what would define true success and true quality of service in business?

Role models

Have you ever considered yourself as a role model?

The fact is, we all are reflecting to each other all of the time. And what we choose to reflect to each other can and often is taken up by others who copy or tailor what they are doing as a result of what they see.

We would all be able to point to people who have been role models for us throughout life. Role models do not necessarily have to be people who are older than us. They can be any age. They are people we watch and who represent something we then take on in our own lives, in one form or another. Role models can be very inspiring and we may well realise that everything we do in life that truly grows us comes from being reflected to or inspired by another.

Reflections in life allow us to see that there is more. This is wonderful, because life is actually limitless in terms of the quality we can represent and live and what we can therefore offer to ourselves and to all others around us, when we open ourselves to that possibility.

So what quality do we choose to reflect to others? Are we the type of role model we would recommend others to follow? Continue reading “Role models”

Breaking free of images – Part 3

Can you imagine how good it would feel if you just let yourself be? If you didn’t need to look the part or measure up to any ideal?

As we have seen in Part 1 and Part 2 of this series, images mean that what we try over and over to deliver, or what we are constantly trying to measure up to, is a picture of what we are supposed to look like and be like in life.

We can’t actually ever fully satisfy the image because it is a picture – it is not real. So, we end up going around in a world where your image meets another’s image and so what we call relationships are really just an arrangement between images, rather than a real-deal connection and all that could mean.

Breaking free of images is a very worthwhile thing to do, and it actually is very possible. Continue reading “Breaking free of images – Part 3”

Breaking free of images – Part 2

In Part 1 of this series, we looked at images we are fed very early on in life about how we are expected to be and behave in life. These images become ideals that we are constantly trying to live up to.

The fact is, the images are often unattainable and they also have a deleterious effect on us and those we love.

For instance, looking deeper at the examples from last week:

  • We are fed an image of what a woman is supposed to look like – we see plenty of women in our lives who put everyone else first, and themselves last (and that is if they factor in at all). This leaves women exhausted, burnt out and if we are honest, resentful.
  • We are also fed an image of what a man is supposed to look like – our role models for men say that a man’s duty is to provide, and this focuses him in on making sure he does so. Providing, in terms of money, security, comfort – is then interpreted as meaning loving and caring for one’s family, even if the family never gets to see him, and irrespective of how he actually feels in himself.

What we can see from the above, is that the images actually discount us as people. They tell us we need to measure up to something that actually removes us from who we truly are.

And what is the result? We lose ourselves in the forever-chased-ideal to try to be ‘good enough’, and those we love get far less than all of us. Continue reading “Breaking free of images – Part 2”

Breaking free of images – Part 1

Do we walk through life as ourselves, or is there something governing us, that limits what we bring?

We may answer that with a flippant, “Of course I am myself” – but are you?

In this article, we take a look at the way we live. We may all readily say that we are free in life to be who we really are, but is this actually true? When we look a little bit deeper, we can see that we think we are free, but if we are really honest about it, we may see that we are actually bound by images, or pictures, that tell us how we need to act and how we need to be. Continue reading “Breaking free of images – Part 1”